Improving Intimacy: CBD & Your Relationship. With work, school, kids, money, family, health issues (ahem, all of the above), maintaining a super connected relationship with your partner is tough, especially if you’ve been together for many years. The truth is, intimacy requires nurturing. And while there’s no one-size-fits-all solution, many couples are turning to cannabis to enhance connection, ease stress, and improve physical intimacy. Curious how that works? Let’s dive into how to rekindle the spark—you may be surprised to learn that CBD can be a major help.
First, talk to your partner.
Before you make any moves, it’s crucial to have a conversation with your partner about how you are both feeling. Express your concerns about your relationship, but without blame or judgement. It’s not a battle; you are on the same team. Be honest about feelings of loneliness or not being on the same page. An open door for talking things through can make a big difference in itself.
✅ Pro Tip: Use “I feel” statements instead of “you never” or “you always.” For example, “I’ve been feeling a bit disconnected lately and I miss you,” creates space for connection, not defensiveness.
Science backs this up—a study published in the National Library of Medicine found that satisfied couples engaged more in positive, less negative, more effective communication.
Take action.
The only way to improve your feelings of discontentment in your relationship? Make a change. Finding the right course of action is going to be different for everyone, but here are some edits you can make to:
1. Spend more quality time together.
This may feel obvious, but sometimes being together more (without kids, without friends, without family) is really all you need to get back on track. The key here is quality. Really disconnect from work and your devices in order to focus on each other and your needs.
💡 Try This: Schedule a “no tech night” once a week. Light candles, share a meal, or try something creative together like painting, dancing, or simply talking without interruption.
2. Touch more.
Make an effort to improve your physical closeness. That doesn’t necessarily mean sex (although it totally could!). Kiss, hug, hold hands, even a quick shoulder massage could make you feel more seen by each other.
👐 Need support? Products like CBD massage oil can make the experience even more relaxing and sensual, helping you both unwind together.
3. Surprise each other.
It’s easy to fall into autopilot in long-term relationships. When you’ve been in a committed relationship for some time, the element of surprise can feel far away. It’s time to change that!
🎁 Try leaving a love note, sending a flirty text, or a sexy gift, a surprising act of kindness to spice things up between you and your partner. Spontaneity is sexy.
Introduce CBD.
Did you know that CBD could actually improve your relationship, too? CBD or cannabidiol is a naturally occurring compound found in the cannabis plant. But unlike THC, it doesn’t produce a high. Instead, CBD is known to have anti-inflammatory and pain relieving properties. So how does that help your relationship? Here’s the connection.
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Stress relief. One of the most common issues that couples face is stress. It affects the ability to connect, both emotionally and physically, Because CBD can reduce anxiety, it’s helpful to keep vibes calm for a more connected relationship. CBD has been shown to help reduce cortisol levels and promote a sense of calm. Taking a CBD tincture, using a calming balm, or soaking in a CBD bath before bed can create a more relaxed environment for connection.
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Increased communication. On that same note, CBD’s calming effects may help couples feel more at ease when having tough conversations, helping create an environment for open and honest dialogue. ✨ Try This: Take a small amount of CBD together before a relationship check-in or during your quality time ritual. It can help you both feel more grounded and present.
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Better sex. This one’s our personal favorite. CBD can help promote blood flow and increase sensation. That’s why our intimacy oils are infused with organic, full-spectrum CBD. Each lubricant makes sexy sessions more juicy, while enhancing pleasure for all.
Consider therapy.
If you’re still struggling to connect with your partner, you may need a third party to help you get to the root of your challenges. Talking to a couples’ therapist can help give you both a new perspective and make difficult conversations easier to manage. There may be deeper issues at play that you hadn’t considered before.
Remember, all couples experience ups and downs in their relationship. What’s most important is keeping communication open, working through challenges without judgement, and finding new ways to rediscover why you love each other. You got this!
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