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Low libido during menopause isn't in your head. It's in your hormones.
As estrogen levels decline, blood flow to genital tissue decreases, natural lubrication slows, and arousal takes longer or stops showing up at all. Many women quietly stop pursuing intimacy not because they don't want connection, but because their body stopped responding the way it used to.
Friday Arousal Oil was made for exactly this moment.
It's not a supplement you take and wait weeks to feel. It's a topical arousal oil you apply where you need it. Formulated with botanicals that work with your body's own pathways to restore sensation, increase natural lubrication, and reawaken desire. Most users notice an effect within 5–15 minutes.
Friday's formula works in two layers, applied together.
The CBD layer: Full-spectrum hemp extract increases blood flow to the genitals, promotes muscle relaxation, and heightens tactile sensitivity. Because it's full-spectrum (not isolated CBD), you get the whole plant: CBD, CBG, minor cannabinoids, and terpenes working together.
The botanical layer: This is what makes Friday different from any other CBD intimacy oil on the market. Eight organic and all-natural botanicals can create a gentle warming and cooling sensation that activates the nerve endings in vulvar tissue and signals arousal to the brain.
Applied topically, the formula works by:
| Friday ours | Generic CBD lube | Arousal serum | |
|---|---|---|---|
| Full-spectrum CBD | ✓ | isolate only | ✕ |
| Warming + cooling botanicals | ✓ | ✕ | synthetic |
| Certified-organic ingredients | ✓ | rarely | rarely |
| Hormone-free | ✓ | ✓ | ✓ |
| Glycerin & paraben free | ✓ | often not | often not |
| Formulated for menopause | ✓ | rarely | rarely |
| Small-batch, NY-made | ✓ | ✕ | ✕ |
The primary carrier oil. MCT (medium-chain triglyceride) oil is a refined form of coconut oil. It's lighter than whole coconut oil, with no scent and a silky, non-greasy texture. It's deeply moisturizing, naturally antimicrobial, and one of the most skin-compatible carrier oils on earth. It's also pH-neutral and completely free of the additives found in many conventional lubes that can cause irritation.
Full-spectrum means the whole plant. It's not just isolated CBD, but the full range of cannabinoids, terpenes, and plant compounds that work together through what researchers call the "entourage effect." Applied topically, CBD increases blood flow to sensitive tissue, promotes muscular relaxation, and enhances sensitivity without any psychoactive effect.
Certified organic. Rich in ricinoleic acid, which promotes circulation and reduces inflammation. Adds slip and staying power to the formula.
Certified organic. Technically a liquid wax that closely mimics the skin's own sebum. Deeply conditioning without clogging pores, and stable for sensitive tissue.
Supports vaginal tissue health and skin elasticity, particularly beneficial for postmenopausal dryness and tissue thinning.
Beyond the sensory pleasure of its scent, cacao contains phenylethylamine (PEA), a compound associated with the feelings of attraction and excitement. It engages the limbic system, the brain's pleasure and emotion center.
A grounding, sensory-rich extract that promotes relaxation and calm arousal. Works synergistically with cacao to create Friday's signature scent profile.
Certified organic. The source of Friday's warming sensation. Cinnamon is a mild vasodilator. It increases local blood flow and creates gentle heat in the tissue, intensifying tactile sensation. Used in precise amounts for pleasure, not irritation.
Certified organic. The cooling counterpoint to cinnamon. Mint activates TRPM8 receptors in the skin. These are the same receptors that respond to cool temperatures, creating a tingle that contrasts with cinnamon's warmth and heightens nerve sensitivity.
Does Friday Arousal Oil actually work for menopause-related low libido?
Yes. During menopause, estrogen decline reduces blood flow to genital tissue, which is the primary driver of natural lubrication and arousal. Friday's full-spectrum CBD increases local circulation, while cinnamon acts as a mild vasodilator to amplify warmth and sensitivity. Most users notice increased sensation and moisture within 5–15 minutes. It won't restore estrogen, but it can meaningfully restore the physical experience of arousal.
What does Friday Arousal Oil with CBD actually feel like?
Within a few minutes of applying Friday, most users feel a gentle warming sensation — that's the cinnamon and CBD working to increase blood flow to the tissue. This is followed by a mild, pleasant cooling tingle from the mint, which stimulates nerve receptors and heightens sensitivity. Together they create a layered sensation that most people describe as awakening or warming up in a way their body hasn't done on its own in a while.
Is Friday Arousal Oil safe to use during hormone therapy (HRT)?
Yes. Friday is completely hormone-free and does not interfere with HRT or any hormone-related medication. It works topically and independently of your hormonal environment. As always, check with your physician if you have specific gynecological concerns.
How is Friday Arousal Oil different from Slide Intimacy Oil?
Both are full-spectrum CBD intimacy oils made in the Hudson Valley. The difference is purpose. Slide is a two-ingredient formula — MCT coconut oil and CBD — designed for effortless glide, moisture, and subtle sensation enhancement. Friday is an eight-ingredient arousal oil with warming cinnamon and cooling mint botanicals specifically formulated to increase arousal and sensation before and during intimacy. Some customers use both together; Friday to awaken sensation, Slide for sustained comfort.
Will cinnamon irritate sensitive skin?
Friday is formulated with cinnamon at levels that create warmth and pleasure, not irritation. That said, every body is different. If you have particularly sensitive skin or a history of reactions to cinnamon-containing products, we recommend starting with a small amount on the inner thigh before applying to the vulva. If you experience any discomfort, discontinue use.
Is Friday Arousal Oil psychoactive? Will the THC get me high?
No. The THC in Friday's full-spectrum hemp extract is at or below 0.3% — a legal hemp threshold, not a meaningful psychoactive dose. More importantly, THC applied topically to the skin does not enter the bloodstream in significant amounts. You will not feel high. The effect is entirely localized; enhanced sensitivity and relaxation where you apply it.
How much CBD is in Friday Arousal Oil?
Friday contains 400mg of full-spectrum CBD per bottle — a meaningful, effective dose chosen to deliver real results, not a trace amount added for marketing.
Where is Friday made?
Friday is handcrafted in small batches in New York, using sustainably grown hemp from the Catskills region. Every batch is independently lab tested for purity and potency. You can verify your batch and view report.
What is intimacy oil and how do I use it?
Apply a lot or a little, it depends on you. We find that the CBD really kicks in about 5-10 minutes after applying, but you will enjoy the glide and slide right away, so dive in!
This all-natural, oil-based lubricant was formulated to enhance pleasure, ease penetration and provide lubrication anywhere you like, with the soothing, activating effects of full spectrum CBD in organic MCT coconut oil, along with our proprietary blend of all-natural and organic botanicals.
With 400mg of CBD per bottle, everyone can enjoy the benefits of added moisture and glide.
Can men use CBD-infused Arousal Oil too?
Absolutely! However, the formulas for our intimacy product line were created with the vagina and vulva in mind.
Now, when it comes to the guys, it's worth mentioning that the skin on the penis behaves a bit differently. It's not as absorbent, especially if you're uncircumcised. So, when you use our products, the primary benefit you'll feel is that they'll keep things nice and moisturized down there, reducing any discomfort from friction.
While some guys have told us they've had an extra exciting time on their own using our products, most folks find that the real magic happens when they share the experience with their partner. It's all about enhancing the pleasure together.
Are your products free of toxins and chemicals?
Absolutely! We test every ingredient and every batch of our products for purity, potency and the presence of harmful substances. Certificates of Analysis (COAs) for all products and batches are available here.
When do your products expire?
We set a best-by date of 18 months from the date of manufacture for our products. This date can usually be found on the packaging or bottles.
If you cannot find a best-by date on your product(s), please contact us at: hello@upstatemary.com and we will be happy to assist you!
Are your intimacy products safe for oral sex?
The answer is simple, YES!
All of our Intimacy products are made with organic, all-natural and food-grade ingredients. While not created specifically for oral consumption, our products can be an excellent addition to oral sex.
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