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Friday Arousal Oil with CBD
Friday Arousal Oil with CBD- Regular price
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$35.00 - Regular price
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Slide Intimacy Oil with CBD
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Hunter Intimacy Melts with CBD
Hunter Intimacy Melts with CBD- Regular price
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Why CBD Belongs in Your Bedroom
At Upstate Mary, we believe intimate wellness deserves the same care and intention as everything else you choose for your body. The products you reach for in your most personal moments should be as clean, thoughtfully sourced, and transparent as the food you eat and the skincare you trust.
That's why every formula begins at Hepworth Farms in New York's Hudson Valley, where seven generations of organic farming cultivate the full-spectrum CBD that powers our products.
Made without synthetic chemicals, glycerin, parabens, or unnecessary additives, our plant-based formulas are designed to support comfort, enhance arousal, and help you reconnect with your body. Whether you're experiencing menopause, postpartum changes, pelvic discomfort, or simply want intimacy to feel more pleasurable, Upstate Mary is here to support your journey...naturally.
Clean Ingredients. Traceable from Farm to Bottle.
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MCT COCONUT OIL
A certified-organic carrier that moisturizes vaginal and vulvar tissue without disrupting pH. Lightweight, antimicrobial, and perfect for sensitive skin.
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FULL SPECTRUM HEMP CBD
Sourced from Hudson Valley, NY. Full-spectrum hemp extract increases blood flow, relaxes pelvic muscles, and heightens sensitivity. It's more effective than CBD isolate, thanks to the whole-plant entourage effect.
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JOJOBA OIL
Mimics the skin's natural sebum for non-greasy, lasting moisture. Anti-inflammatory and ideal for intimate skin.
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CACAO ABSOLUTE
A source of Friday's signature scent and warmth. Contains phenylethylamine (PEA), a compound linked to arousal and excitement that engages the brain's pleasure center.
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Why Full-Spectrum CBD For Intimacy?
CBD intimacy oils and suppositories work by increasing blood flow to genital tissue, relaxing pelvic floor muscles, and enhancing natural lubrication. CBD intimacy oils and suppositories can be particularly effective for women navigating menopause, painful sex, endometriosis, and postpartum recovery.
Unlike conventional lubricants loaded with glycerin and synthetic additives, our full-spectrum CBD formulas use only organic, plant-based ingredients that support your body without disrupting its natural balance.
How CBD Arousal Oil WorksFarm to Bedroom™
Upstate Mary understands the importance of knowing where your CBD comes from and how it’s been grown. That's why our CBD starts at Hepworth Farms; it's a seventh-generation, USDA certified-organic family farm in New York's Hudson Valley. We know exactly where every drop comes from, and we publish independent lab results for every batch we make.
It's our commitment to you and that makes us proudly Farm to Bedroom™.
Verify Your BatchWE GIVE BACK
In the United States, someone dies from breast cancer every 14 minutes. Our co-founder Melissa Eppard is a breast cancer survivor who built Upstate Mary to help women reclaim pleasure after treatment, hormonal changes, and the quiet losses that come with illness and aging.
Upstate Mary donates to the National Breast Cancer Foundation with every purchase.
Read Melissa's StorySUSTAINABILITY
Upstate Mary supports One Tree Planted as part of our commitment to sustainability. One Tree Planted is a non-profit organization focused on global reforestation. Together we can restore forests, create habitat for biodiversity and make a positive social impact around the world.
Upstate Mary donates to One Tree Planted with every purchase. One tree planted with every dollar donated.
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Frequently Asked Questions
What is CBD intimacy oil and how does it work?
CBD intimacy oil is a topical oil applied to the vulva and genitals before or during sex. Full-spectrum CBD increases blood flow to genital tissue, relaxes pelvic muscles, and heightens sensitivity.
Upstate Mary's formulas use whole-plant CBD from the Hudson Valley, New York, combined with certified-organic botanicals. Effects begin within 5–15 minutes of
application.
Are Upstate Mary products good for menopause?
Yes. Menopause is one of the primary use cases for our products. Declining estrogen during menopause reduces blood flow to genital tissue and causes vaginal dryness, slower arousal, and painful sex. Friday
Arousal Oil increases sensation and circulation externally; Slide Intimacy Oil provides lasting lubrication; Hunter Intimacy Melts deliver CBD internally for deep pelvic relief. All three are hormone-free.
What makes Upstate Mary different from other CBD lube brands?
Three things: sourcing, formulation, and transparency. Our CBD comes from a seventh-generation organic farm in New York (Hepworth Farms). Our formulas use full-spectrum hemp — not isolate — with
certified-organic botanicals and zero glycerin, parabens, or synthetic fragrance. And we publish independent lab results for every batch.
Are CBD intimacy products safe for people after breast cancer treatment?
Our products are hormone-free and contain no synthetic chemicals, making them a popular choice for women managing pelvic symptoms after cancer treatment without hormone therapy. Our co-founder Melissa Eppard is a breast cancer survivor and designed the collection with this in mind. We always recommend consulting your oncologist before introducing new products post-treatment.
Where can I buy Upstate Mary products?
Upstate Mary ships directly from our site with free shipping on orders over $100. We're also carried in select dispensaries and wellness retailers. Find your nearest location.
