9 Self-Care Holiday Gifts They’ll Actually Love. Holidays in the Catskills hit a little differently — snow-dusted evergreens, woodstove crackles, the scent of pine and cinnamon rolling across the valley. And also… the chaos. The school concerts, work deadlines, traffic heading up to the ski mountains, trying to remember which cousin you still need a gift for.
So if you’re doing a little last-minute shopping (zero judgment — we see you, we are you), consider this your curated guide to sexy, thoughtful, body-positive gifts that ship fast and feel fantastic. Whether you're spoiling a partner, best friend, lover, or yourself (highly encouraged), these picks bring pleasure, ease stress, and ignite connection — upstate style.
Let’s get you gifting.
1. THE ART OF THE EROTIC
If your partner is the type who keeps coffee table books stacked like trophies, this one turns the heat up in the chicest way possible. The Art of the Erotic features works from Jackson Pollock, Andy Warhol, Georgia O’Keeffe, and over 200 artists who explore desire through color, texture, and form.
It’s thoughtful, surprising, intimate — the kind of gift that sparks conversation and sets the mood while still feeling elegant and elevated. Perfect for a slow Catskills morning with coffee… or a late night with wine.
Why they’ll love it:
- Inspires sensuality
- Looks stunning displayed
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Encourages deeper conversations (and maybe reenactments)
Shop favorites:
Open the book to a page you’d like to… reference later.
2. NEVER HAVE I EVER GAME by Fleur du Mal
Let’s get to some naughty nostalgia for adults. Fleur du Mal (the lingerie brand that makes you suddenly want to clean out your entire underwear drawer) released its own version of the iconic “Never Have I Ever” game — but all grown up.
It’s playful, cheeky, and perfect for partners or friends who appreciate a little mischief. Bring it to a holiday gathering for instant laughter, connection, and maybe a few surprising confessions.
3. Wildcat THC-Infused Sex Oil by Upstate Mary
For the one who likes things spicy, our oil was inspired by Wildcat Mountain, one of the boldest peaks in the Catskills. This oil is not subtle — and it’s meant to be.
Wildcat is our THC + CBD intimacy oil designed for people who crave deeper sensation, fuller-body pleasure, and that delicious “I can feel everything” intensity. The full-spectrum cannabinoids work together to increase blood flow, heighten arousal, melt tension, and can even help you achieve longer, stronger orgasms.
Warm, buzzy, tingly, expansive — Wildcat turns the dial all the way up.
It’s the perfect gift for adventurous partners, curious couples, or the most unforgettable Secret Santa exchange ever.
Where to get it: 👉 Available in select New York dispensaries.
If you love shopping local (or need a last-minute stocking stuffer), you can pick up Wildcat at one of our retail partners. Don’t see it on the shelves? Ask your budtender to order it in — dispensaries love customer requests. Your voice really does get products stocked.
THC pleasure products make phenomenal gifts — sizzling, sensual, and guaranteed to leave an impression long after the holidays.
4. THE SEX STONE by Kate McLeod
Kate McLeod’s legendary moisturizing stones get a sensual spin with The Sex Stone, a solid massage bar that melts beautifully on warm skin. It glides like silk and smells like a cozy night in.
And here’s the pro move: Pair it with our Slide Intimacy Oil (CBD-infused) for a juicy, deeply connected full-body experience.
Slide is ideal for massage and foreplay — lightweight, long-lasting, and infused with full-spectrum CBD to soothe tension and enhance sensation. Your body will thank you.
5. FUNCTIONAL CHOCOLATES by Alice
Functional treats are big this year: mood-boosting cacao, adaptogens, herbs for desire, and botanicals for relaxation— (aka 2025’s Most Delicious Trend). Because sometimes the sexiest gift… is functional chocolate.
Alice’s Happy Ending Chocolates blend cacao, ashwagandha, maca, cayenne and a powerhouse lineup of herbs designed to support arousal, energy, mood, and overall sexual wellness.
Take one square for everyday balance — or two to three before intimate time to turn things up.
It’s a gift that feels fun, a little indulgent, and actually meaningful. And delicious, obviously.
Our top pick:
🍫 Alice Mushroom Chocolates — “Happy Ending” Edition
Think “edible foreplay,” but classy.
6. WOOD CABIN CANDLES by Keap
Keap is a small-batch candle company based in Kingston, NY — and their Wood Cabin (aka Catskills in a jar) scent is basically the official fragrance of Catskills sensuality.
Notes of cedar, palo santo, smoke, and fireside embers create the perfect bedroom atmosphere. Dim the lights, light the candle, toss a sheepskin rug on the floor, and voilà — instant retreat energy.
Local. Sustainable. Sexy. A triple win. Keap is basically a scent-ambassador of the Hudson Valley.
🕯️ Shop:
Keap Candles
Light it and get cozy.
7. SILK & LACE EYE MASK by AGENT PROVOCATEUR
Silk + lace = instant luxury, instant allure.
This eye mask from Agent Provocateur is perfect for travel, sleep, relaxation, and — if you’re feeling playful — as a makeshift blindfold. Pair it with soft lighting, a warm room, and lots of anticipation.
It’s simple, sensual, and always well-received.
Equal parts bougie and sexy.
This silky eye mask from Agent Provocateur doubles as:
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A sleep aid
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Sensory play starter
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A soft blindfold for beginners
🎀 Shop:
Eye Masks
You’re gifting rest and a hint of mischief.
8. THE SHAKTI MAT
This one is a joy multiplier. The Shakti Mat uses acupressure points to:
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Relieve muscle tension
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Increase circulation (which… yes… is great for intimacy)
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Improve sleep
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Ease anxiety (holiday-induced or otherwise)
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Support recovery
And relaxed bodies = more presence, more pleasure, more connection.
You might want to order two — one for gifting, one for your own sanity.
🧘 Shop:
The Shakti Mat
A perfect gift for stressed-out parents, athletes, or anyone who needs calm in their body.
9. Cozy Winter Essentials = Foreplay
Snuggle season gifts are always a win in Upstate NY.
Consider gifting:
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Alpaca throws
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Wool socks
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Plush robes
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Slippers
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Weighted blankets
The cozier the gift, the cozier the night.
🧣 Catskills favorite:
Alpaca Throws from Buck Brook Alpacas
Perfect for Netflix-in-bed nights, snowstorms, and “we’re not leaving the house” weekends.
Need it fast? Every product on this list ships quickly.
And if you’re gifting from Upstate Mary, you’re supporting a woman-owned, Hudson Valley–made brand dedicated to joy, pleasure advocacy, and intimate wellness without shame.
With love from the Catskills — stay warm, stay wild, and give gifts that feel good.
ABOUT UPSTATE MARY
At Upstate Mary, we celebrate the power of plants and the beauty of self-care. Our Farm to Bedroom™ collection is designed to support pleasure and connection at every stage of life, whether you’re navigating menopause, postpartum, or simply exploring your sensuality. Formulated with organic botanicals and full-spectrum CBD, our intimacy oils and suppositories nurture your body without disrupting its natural balance.
Rediscover your pleasure with Upstate Mary.