Cool Ways to Have Sex When It’s Really Hot. When temperatures are hovering between 90 and 100 degrees, and humidity is at an all-time high, the last thing you’re probably thinking about is turning up the heat between the sheets. But just because it feels like a sauna outside, doesn’t mean your sex life has to melt away too. Fear not, we have some hot tips for keeping things cool while still experiencing total pleasure, all summer long.
1. Hit the showers
Invite your partner into the shower for a wetter, better way to stay cool while getting close. Just remember that the water can wash away your natural lubrication, so bring a bottle of oil-based lube like Friday Arousal Oil, made with coconut oil, CBD, and natural botanicals.
Bonus Tip: Add a waterproof toy into the mix, or take turns using your hands in all the right places. The sound of running water and the warmth of the shower can help you both relax—and get even closer.
2. Play around with your positions
Skip the sex positions that require full body contact (sorry, missionary). Instead, try reverse cowgirl, doggy style, or one of these fabulous options, which will build less body heat. Try playing a little sex "yoga": shift positions every few minutes to keep things fresh and avoid overheating. And if you’re feeling adventurous, bring in a prop like a pillow or wedge for added comfort and airflow.
3. Ice, ice baby
This one will give you chills, literally. Try temperature play, a form of BDSM that uses objects and substances to stimulate the body’s neuroreceptors for a sensual effect. But instead of going for hot wax, try ice cubes or cold water. Put an ice cube in your mouth before going down on someone, or even put your sex toys in the freezer for a cooler experience. Putting your CBD lube in the refrigerator for a few minutes is a fun way to make things juicy and cool. Just remember: consent, communication, and keeping things comfortable are key. This is about awakening the senses, not shocking them.
4. Masturbate… together!
Keep the added body heat at bay with mutual masturbation. Using hands or toys, masturbate together, or give each other a hand. Did you know that masturbation can help you sleep, improves your mood, and can reduce stress? Give it a try and reap the benefits.
5. Car sex
If you’re having air conditioning troubles at home, get in your car, crank the cool air, and go at it. You don’t necessarily have to go beyond your driveway, although you could take a scenic drive to add some fresh vibes. Just ensure the car is safely in “park” before you get frisky behind the wheel. Always make sure the car is safely parked and off the road, and be mindful of local laws if you’re venturing out.
Pro Tips:
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Recline the seats for maximum maneuverability.
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Keep a small intimacy kit in the glove box: lube, wipes, maybe a vibrator necklace from Upstate Mary (wink).
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Put on a sexy playlist and treat it like a date night, not just a quickie.
6. Find a water source
If you have a pool, this one’s easy. Otherwise, you may have to do some hunting for an ocean, a lake, or a river of some kind for cool kink. Wherever the solution, be sure to bring your favorite CBD-infused lubricant And don’t forget: nature play is sexy, but safety first in water—watch for slippery rocks, strong currents, or overly public spots.
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