5 Ways to Make Scheduled Sex Sexy

5 Ways to Make Scheduled Sex Sexy.

Did you know that July is National Anti-Boredom Month? It’s a thing. To celebrate, we’re talking about scheduled sex. Sometimes with kids, busy work lives, and more obligations, it’s challenging to find the time to make sexy time happen. So much like any other important meeting, putting intimacy on the calendar can be crucial for maintaining a healthy relationship. But just because your sex is scheduled, that doesn’t mean it has to be boring! Here are five ways we like to spice things up and keep it interesting. 

1. Build anticipation

Like fun vacation plans or a date night, having something on the calendar doesn’t necessarily make it less fun. Scheduling sex can create a little something to look forward to for you and your partner. So lean into that! Build the anticipation by talking about it. Send a calendar invite or a simple text; “Can’t wait for later. I have something new to try.” 

2. Add a toy 

A playful way to add some excitement to your next scheduled sex sesh? Toys! Find something fun to play with together. In fact, we just launched the new Vibe, a stunning piece of jewelry that doubles as a powerful vibrator. Plus, it’s compatible with oil-based lubes, which we will talk about in just a minute. With eight settings, you and your partner will love the way Vibe feels. 

3. Introduce some CBD 

It’s a fact. CBD can improve your sex life. How? It can increase pleasure by increasing blood flow, promoting relaxation, and setting the mood. That’s why it’s a key ingredient in all of our lubricants. Try best-selling Friday Arousal Oil, made with full-spectrum CBD to take your next scheduled sex session to new heights. Friday is supercharged with a mix of organic and all-natural botanicals + CBD goodness. 

4. Wear something extra sexy

Consider this your excuse to go shopping. Whether you’re into some seriously sexy lingerie, costumes, or another form of dress up, surprise your partner (and yourself!) with a new style. With scheduled sex, it’s all about adding elements of surprise, so it’s all fair game. The Red Foxxx is one of our favorite local shops for lacy little underthings, bodysuits, and nighties. Hidden Gem ( one of our incredible stockists!) is a new shop in Hudson and home to one-of-a-kind sustainable and vintage lingerie by artist and designer Clare Bare.

5. Find a new spot 

If you head to the bed every single time you have your scheduled sex session, it’s bound to get boring. Find a new place to get busy! Maybe it’s the shower, your kitchen, or somewhere outside the home you haven’t explored. Or perhaps you dress up your bedroom with some new items to set the mood, like a sultry Oakmoss + Amber candle. 

Go ahead, put it on the calendar. Mix things up and have fun with it. 

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ABOUT UPSTATE MARY

At Upstate Mary, we're all about the power of plants. Formulated with full-spectrum CBD + MCT coconut oil and a blend of organic botanicals, our products offer soothing and stimulating effects. Like your gut, your vagina has its own microbiome and it can be very sensitive. We use organic botanical ingredients, so no disruptors here!

Our Farm to Bedroom™ collection isn’t just for special occasions, one-night stands or mind-blowing orgasms; although we’re here for all of that! We're committed to being the new go-to for our perimenopausal and menopausal friends too. Our collection of CBD lubes and suppositories can help address a range of needs, from relieving pelvic floor pain to enhancing blood flow + daily lubrication to offering postpartum care. We're here to support every body.