The Complete Guide to a Sexy Couple’s Massage. Looking to unlock another level of intimacy with your partner? A sexy massage can be the perfect way to connect both physically and mentally. Discovering new ways to touch and be touched can help you both relax as well as find a powerful new space for connection. If you aren’t sure where to begin, we created a guide to help you get started in the sensual massage department.
First step: Talk to your partner.
The first and most important thing about trying something new? Communication. Start an open conversation with your partner about massage: what they like, what they don’t like, and what you want, too. Are there areas that they don’t want to be touched or prefer to be touched? Make sure you have this chat before you start.
But the talking doesn’t end there. During your sensual foreplay massage, be sure to ask questions like, “Would it feel good if I…” “Is there anything I can do to make this feel better?” “How is this feeling for you?” Keeping a dialogue going ensures everyone feels comfortable and satisfied.
Next, get your supplies.
Stock up on everything you need to make things spicy. Meet our couple’s massage must have: Slide Intimacy Oil. It’s our best-selling intimacy oil formulated with just two ingredients—certified-organic MCT coconut oil and full spectrum hemp extract. Slide is the ultimate massage oil because it is designed to enhance relaxation, sensation, and moisture. We love CBD, or cannabidiol, because it is known to help ease anxiety and amp up pleasure.
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Then, set the mood.
Make your own sexy spa at home. Turn down the lights, put on some soft music, and light a candle or incense. Ensure the room is warm and cozy, and that all distractions are put away so you can really focus on each other. Make sure you have your CBD sex oil handy and a comfy place to lie down. Then, slip into something more comfortable. It could be your birthday suit, your most sultry lingerie, or even a costume for some fun role play. The oxytocin boost is about to begin!
Understand the body’s hot spots.
Did you know that there are specific spots on the body prone to more pleasure? Those are called erogenous zones, and there are 31 of them. Not all of them cause the tingle for everybody, so it may take a little trial and error to find out which spots work for both you and your partner. The ones that are most widely known are the nipples, mouth, neck, feet, and of course, genitals, but there are other lesser known spots that can turn people on. These are the scalp, ears, navel, small of the back, fingers, behind the knees, and underarms. These sensitive spots may be what spikes your partner’s sexual response–or even your own.
Focusing on sensual zones.
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Neck and Shoulders. These areas hold a lot of tension and are extremely responsive to touch.
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Lower Back and Hips. Slow, circular motions here can feel incredibly soothing and sensual.
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Thighs and Inner Legs. Light, teasing strokes up the thighs create anticipation and excitement.
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Hands and Feet. Massaging the hands and feet can be deeply relaxing and subtly arousing.
Finally, respond to their stimulation.
As you explore your sensual massage together, try to respond to what’s working for each of you and mix up your movements. Very light touch could be what gets you going, or perhaps more pressure if your thing. Get your full body into the mix–touching doesn’t have to be with just your hands. Use your arms or chest to try different levels of pressure and firmness. You may be surprised at what you discover.
The art of touch.
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Start Slow. Begin with light, feathery strokes to awaken the skin and relax your partner.
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Use Broad Movements. Long, sweeping motions with your palms help to warm the muscles and spread the oil evenly.
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Apply Gentle Pressure. Use your thumbs to make small circles along the shoulders, neck, and back—focusing on tension points.
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Experiment with Sensation. Alternate between deep pressure and soft caresses to keep things exciting.
Exploring massage is not only fun and pleasurable, but it’s a great way to form a deeper connection and bond with your partner. You can learn more about each other’s arousal points and what really turns them on.
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