The Art of the Quickie: How to Maximize Pleasure in Minimum Time. We all deserve pleasure, but sometimes with busy schedules, kids, work, and other obligations, the clock isn’t in our favor. Finding time to have sex is a common reason why people may skip doing the deed. However, you don’t need hours of time ahead of you to experience mind-blowing sex. In fact, according to Healthline, vaginal sex typically only lasts three to seven minutes. Enter, the quickie! AKA, a super short sex sesh. So, how do you maximize your time for major pleasure when you are short on minutes? Here are a few ideas to keep things fast yet feeling good.
Know your positions
Go for the positions that you know feel better than others. Try the ones that offer deeper penetration (doggy style and cowgirl may be a good place to start). Women’s Health explained that deeper penetration can provide multi-sensory stimulation to different erogenous zones, ideal for a quicker climax. Not working? Shift quickly!
Location, location, location
Location matters for a lot of things, but in this case… it doesn’t! Don’t feel like you have to make it to the bedroom for your quickie; feel free to get down and dirty anytime, anywhere. Your spontaneous location may even spice things up a bit! And removing all clothing is optional.
Use lube and toys
A CBD-infused lubricant not only makes things a little juicier, it also promotes relaxation, which can help you get there faster. If you’re feeling uptight, in your head, and uncomfortable, there’s no way a quickie can be successful. We also recommend bringing along your favorite toy—vibrators can make the world of difference when it comes to efficiency.
Skip the drugs and alcohol
Sure, substances like drugs and alcohol can lower your inhibitions, but they can also make things take a whole lot longer. In fact, research shows that booze can have lots of negative effects on your sex life: for females, it’s harder to get wet and alcohol can decrease genital response, making it more challenging to climax. For males, alcohol decreases blood flow to the penis, which means erections are much more difficult. Too much booze can cause delayed ejaculation (ie, taking 30 minutes or more to reach orgasm). Not compatible with a time crunch.
Communicate!
This one is simple, but surprisingly effective. Tell your partner what you want, and listen to what they want. Knowing exactly how to push each other’s buttons can be the key to a quicker climax. Beyond your quickie, it can help your relationship long-term. According to a 2019 study in The Journal of Sex Research, couples who communicate more tend to have better sex lives. Not shocking, but a great reminder to keep lines of communication open.
May your next quickie be fast and pleasure-filled! Stay connected to us on social media for more tips and our favorite products for better sex.
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