More Pleasure. Less Shame.

Let’s talk about sex.

Not in whispers. Not with embarrassment. And definitely not like our bodies and what we do with them are something we need to apologize for.

At Upstate Mary: pleasure is a part of wellness, and it belongs to every body.

For too long, sex has been tangled up in shame, secrecy and a whole lot of ideas about what we should want, how our bodies should look, and what a satisfying sex life is supposed to be.

We’re over it!

Your Body Isn’t an Awkward Subject

We talk about sleep, skincare, exercise, nutrition and stress. So why do words like vulva, lubrication, masturbation, orgasm and libido still make so many of us lower our voices?

Our bodies aren’t embarrassing and neither are the things they need.

Knowing your body, understanding what feels good, speaking up when something doesn’t, and asking questions when things change are all part of taking care of yourself.

Bodies change and so can desire. What turned you on ten years ago might not do it today. What feels good with one partner might feel completely different with another. Sometimes pleasure comes easily and sometimes it takes a little more intention.

All of this is normal.

Connection Starts With You

Great sex doesn’t have to begin with another person. In fact, some of the most important intimacy we experience is the relationship we build with ourselves.

Touch yourself. Get curious. Slow down. Pay attention to what actually feels good instead of what you think is supposed to feel good.

The better we know our own bodies, the easier it becomes to communicate what we want, what we don’t want, and what makes us feel connected.

And yes, masturbation counts as sex. Yes, we said what we said.

Celebrate Sex & Whatever That Means to You

There is no single recipe for a fulfilling sex life.

Enjoying sex might mean getting naked with someone you love. It might mean getting naked with yourself. It could mean trying something new, having a conversation you’ve been avoiding, pulling your favorite toy out of the nightstand, lingering over a kiss, or simply giving yourself permission to want more pleasure in your life.

Sex can be playful.

Tender.

Messy.

Funny.

Quiet.

Wild.

Solo.

Partnered.

Or something you're not particularly interested in right now.

The point isn't to have more sex.

It's to have less shame, more connection and more curiosity. It's also about having more freedom to experience pleasure on your own terms.

Pleasure isn't frivolous and your body isn't something to be embarrassed about.

So let’s raise a glass to good sex, great orgasms, honest conversations, changing bodies, curious minds, and knowing yourself a little better.

More pleasure. Less shame.

We think that's worth celebrating!

 

ABOUT UPSTATE MARY

At Upstate Mary, we celebrate the power of plants and the beauty of self-care. Our Farm to Bedroom™ collection is designed to support pleasure and connection at every stage of life, whether you’re navigating menopause, postpartum, or simply exploring your sensuality. Formulated with organic botanicals and full-spectrum CBD, our intimacy oils and suppositories nurture your body without disrupting its natural balance. 

Rediscover your pleasure with Upstate Mary.